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COMMUNITY BREW : Vol. 2
I'm so happy to see you back here today for the Community Brew link-up. First, I want to say thank you to the ladies who keep this going, Madison and Rachel. I love that we can use this space and our lives to show off what the Lord is doing in each of our lives.
I also want to encourage you to read the verses listed above, especially the ones listed for Ephesians. This is used in marriages all over the world. It was spoken in mine. These words are DEAR to me heart.
What has God been teaching you about being single?
- Ladies, please hear me. If you are single then YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I thought being single was the worst thing at one time. I was depressed that all my friends had husbands/boyfriends/etc. to go and do something with on weekends. I was bitter.
And then I started realizing that life isn't so bad single. So, I used my time being single to focus on ME and MY dreams. I went out with friends, caught up with old friends, spent time reading, and just being ME. It was so beneficial in hindsight, and guess what? Brian walked into my life shortly after...
What is God teaching you about being a wife?
- Every day, God gives me a new lesson on being Brian's wife. Some days it can be something as silly as learning to be less control-freak when Brian leaves his empty glass on the table. Then, some days it's challenging when I have to be in a serious conversation with my husband over something personal to us. I am blessed for both of those days because I would be lost without him.
God doesn't give us more than we can handle. If you think He has, then I assure you that your lesson is yet to be learned. God pushes us, test us, and angers us sometimes. But being a wife is my priority right now and I will ask God to guide me any way He can.
- My time while engaged, was a huge blessing to me. I can see now that I was taught patience. When Brian and I got engaged, I was ready to settle the deal and just have a wedding and become his Mrs. But I stuck with my plans and waiting 11 months to walk down the isle to the man of my dreams. To some, eleven months is long and to some it is short. I think for me it was perfect. God knew I needed the time to adjust and let me learn a valuable lesson from it in doing so.
You can catch my entire Love Story by clicking here.
I also want to encourage you to read the verses listed above, especially the ones listed for Ephesians. This is used in marriages all over the world. It was spoken in mine. These words are DEAR to me heart.
How has your "life stage" helped you grow in your relationship with Jesus?
- I turned thirty this year, so to say that my life stage has changed is an understatement. I think in the last two years, I've found an even deeper relationship with God that I ever thought i would, honestly.
- I turned thirty this year, so to say that my life stage has changed is an understatement. I think in the last two years, I've found an even deeper relationship with God that I ever thought i would, honestly.
What has God been teaching you about being single?
- Ladies, please hear me. If you are single then YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I thought being single was the worst thing at one time. I was depressed that all my friends had husbands/boyfriends/etc. to go and do something with on weekends. I was bitter.
And then I started realizing that life isn't so bad single. So, I used my time being single to focus on ME and MY dreams. I went out with friends, caught up with old friends, spent time reading, and just being ME. It was so beneficial in hindsight, and guess what? Brian walked into my life shortly after...
What is God teaching you about being a wife?
- Every day, God gives me a new lesson on being Brian's wife. Some days it can be something as silly as learning to be less control-freak when Brian leaves his empty glass on the table. Then, some days it's challenging when I have to be in a serious conversation with my husband over something personal to us. I am blessed for both of those days because I would be lost without him.
God doesn't give us more than we can handle. If you think He has, then I assure you that your lesson is yet to be learned. God pushes us, test us, and angers us sometimes. But being a wife is my priority right now and I will ask God to guide me any way He can.
What lessons have you learned while being engaged?
You can catch my entire Love Story by clicking here.
Happy Birthday MR. MISSISSIPPI
It's a mighty special day around the White House, no not that White house. It's Mr. White's birthday! And I must say, he is getting even more gorgeous with age!
Brian, thank you for being the man that I waited my whole life for. Thank you for being there for me when times were good AND bad these last three years. Thank you for being true to me and true to yourself. Your honesty and commitment are two of my favorite things about you.
Every day we have got to spend with each other has been a blessing. Sure, we've had good days and bad days BUT those are the days that make up a real marriage. We're a great team.
You can make me laugh when no one else can. You are the other half of my soul. Even if I didn't get to wear this gorgeous ring on my left finger, you would be my soul mate and best friend to the end.
You make marriage FUN. Waking up to you, and sometimes wanting to kill you in the middle of the night when you are snoring is part of my laughs and memories of our marriage. I love that we can pick on each other and still love each other. We know how to have a good time, with little outside sources.
You are just my best friend. I love you more than life itself and can't imagine spending my days with anyone else. You're my protector, my hero, and my idol. I can't wait to see us grow old together and share parenthood as a new challenge one day. I love you so much, baby.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, B!
#firstTOTALSOCIAL
I was so glad to see his smiling face when he turned around. I was getting nervous, but in this moment all those nerves were gone. I was with my baby.
He checked out my WHOLE dress, apparently.
Mississippi Mrs.: The Story Behind the Name.
Mississippi Mrs. isn't where this little blog of mine got started. If you've followed me for long, you know I used to host "Keeping Up With Kayla"for a long time. Well, the simple fact is that I chose that name because I was clueless as to what else I should call myself.
I hated the name. It was too generic for me. I wanted to change my name for so long, but never had the nerve. When you have all your social media tied to a name, it becomes a hassle to change without a lot of thought.
And then it happened. I got engaged. I got married. I got a new name.
I was a married woman now. My blog was about more than "Kayla." I was talking about married life and things Brian and I were facing as a married couple. So Mississippi Mrs. was born.
I spend my moments on this blog just really living life and documenting the trials we face as a married couple.Of course, I like to throw in our date nights, family vacations, and other fun things we get to experience. I would LOVE to have you follow along with me too.
I am in the process of working on getting sponsors back up and running on my blog. I took off prior to the wedding because I didn't have the time to devote for anyone. But in the meantime, I'm all for swapping buttons with whomever wants! Send me an Email and we will get it worked out!
How did your blog get it's name? I'd love to hear!
I am in the process of working on getting sponsors back up and running on my blog. I took off prior to the wedding because I didn't have the time to devote for anyone. But in the meantime, I'm all for swapping buttons with whomever wants! Send me an Email and we will get it worked out!
How did your blog get it's name? I'd love to hear!
Wedding: 10 Things I Would Do All Over Again
Last week I saw a few bloggers making a list of things they would do all over again from their wedding day. Mine was so wonderful and perfect so I knew I wanted to join in! Hope you enjoy!
2. Deciding to do "the first look" before our ceremony.
There are a lot of differing opinions for couples on if this is something they want to do. Yes, it does take away from the "surprise" factor when the groom sees you for the first time, as does the rest of the guests. Brian and I knew all along we wanted to do our First Look due to a number of things. One, we were leaving for our honeymoon as soon as the wedding was over, so we were on more of a time crunch than a lot of couples. Secondly, our location (while beautiful and all I could have ever dreamed it to be!) was just not set up for such a secluded thing to be carried out.
Brian and I still got to have "our" moment, alone. And it was perfect for us. I would make that decision again in a heartbeat.
3. Having a wedding party that knows how to have fun!
I loved that our wedding party was game for all the funny pictures. My ladies, and his men, were fantastic sports and made this day special for us both. I still giggle looking at these crazy moments!
5. Changing plans, at the last minute.
Originally, I was going to get ready at our wedding location. But after some last minute thoughts, I changed my mind and found this cute little bed and breakfast that's hidden in a small Southern town nearby. It worked out so beautiful. The pictures from "my" shoot are gorgeous. I definitely want to plan a trip back to this place to take some more pictures of it's history.
6. Making sure my groom's table was as fabulous as he is!
Brian is a serious tool-freak. When it came time to look for his cake, I knew exactly what he would love. I found a picture of a similar cake and showed it to our baker. She did more than a fabulous job. We are STILL hearing compliments on how great it turned out AND how delicious it tasted! Win/Win for us!
7. Approve these guys all over again!
In case you can't read the letters, it spells out "Don't Do It Brian". During the prayer, I heard lots of shuffling around and you can imagine my reaction when I opened my eyes to find these crazy guys on the ground. I had no idea until AFTER the wedding and reception that their shoes had the funny message all along! Such pranksters, but I love each and every one of them!
8. Pick our rustic theme.
From the day we were engaged, I knew I wanted a fall/rustic wedding. One of my first "visions" was having white pumpkins at our wedding. For those of you who don't know, our last name is "White" so the significance is there.
I found these beautiful pumpkins at a local farmer's market and had a co-worker paint them for me. I still love the way they all turned out. A vision come true!
9. Pick all these special friends/family again!
I love the friendships and bonds that we have with our bridal party. Brian loves my girls, and I think the world of his guys. We truly feel like God handed us each and every one to make our lives complete.
10. Pick my photographer again & AGAIN!
This lady may have started out as my pick for the big day, but she has turned into one of my BEST friends. I know without a shadow of a doubt that I have found my lifelong family photographer. She is such a sweet person who is willing to go above and beyond to make the big day all you've dreamed of as a bride. Her wonderful husband helps her and Brian and I feel like they are some of the best people we have found in this lifetime. God gives us those we need in our lives. I'm looking forward to this lady being right beside me for Baby White's arrival (whenever that comes!)
Well, that's it. My wedding day was the day I had dreamed of for years. I married my best friend and found myself surrounded by a group of the best family and friends we could ask for in this life. October 12, 2013 changed my life. And thus, Mississippi Mrs. was born.
The First 6 Months.. {Marriage.}
My friend, Brittany at Happy Is A Choice, recently celebrated her 6 month anniversary. Since Brian and I are right behind them and it is now our 6 month anniversary, I wanted to take her idea and share my thoughts and things I have learned in the first 6 months.
1. Spending time together is an adjustment. Yes, Brian and I still enjoy doing things together. We have a series of silly shows we watch, a set of meals we love to cook, and a million other little quirks we have figured out. But one big lesson we have learned even more so as a married couple is that time spent separately is just as valuable as time together.
Neither Brian nor myself are the type of people who "need" to have our spouse at our side every second of free time. In fact, I'm sure we would end up having a HUGE argument if one of us tried that at all. We have kept our own leisure activies since before we were married. Saturdays, I love to go to yard sales. I also love to read and play on Pinterest. Brian likes to play XBox and go use his tools on a project.
We both are interested in what the other wants/needs, but we also believe our marriage deserves some alone time. It works for us!
2. Text fighting never ends up good. Brian and I have had numberous issues where one or the other of us has taken something "said" the wrong way. This is one reason I do dislike my phone. I can say something completely harmless and he may take it as I was being snappy. Brian and I are not perfect. We do have spats about little things. Texting about those spats is NEVER a good idea. We are now trying to watch what we say in those moments so nothing CAN be taken wrong, or simply picking up the phone and discussing the rest and making things more clear.
3. Forgiveness is something you will do every single day of your marriage. Yes, we are working on 6 months of marriage and almost 3 years of dating. We don't know everything about each other. I don't feel like we will know it ALL by the time we are 80. Every day there may be some little thing or word said that you want to fix or claim it hurts your feelings. Nine out of ten times, your spouse never meant it that way.
It can be as small as a joke that is taken wrong, or someone leaving something out place. The bottom line is, life is short. No one is promised tomorrrow. There is no need to get bent out of shape over one thing when tomorrow it will not matter. And it for sure will not break your marriage. Pick your battles. And forgive when hurt. And ALWAYS really forgive. No one wants the past threw in their face.
4. Trust one another. I believe with my whole entire heart that Brian would never, ever do anything outside of our marriage. Yes, other women have made that statement and found out they were wrong. This is when I'm telling you this is MY husband and I know this to be true. He doesn't have the heart to do that to me. Nor I would him. It took us way too long to find each other in this life to risk throwing it down the drain like that.
With that said, trust is major in ANY relationship. Brian and I both came from hurtful, decieving relationships and were not ready to fully trust again. I know in the beginning that we had to work hard to let both our walls down and let each other into our hearts. That's a lifelong commitment we made to each other.
Trusting Brian is like second nature to me. And as we grow older, that is factor that will never break.
5. Keep the romance. We are still newlyweds, folks. But that doesn't mean that we don't both come home from work and want to just collapse on the couch/recliner and call it a night. And in all honesty, a lot of nights WE DO. And that's perfectly fine because we understand that. But we both know how equally important it is to keep our flame burning, for lack of better terms.
Brian still kisses me at random times, or squeezes my hand in the middle of the night. I still send him random "I love you" e-mails and pick up his favorite candy at the store. It doesn't have to be some big elaborate date. Brian and I are fine with a pizza and an episode of Shark Tank.
However, we keep a place in the back of our minds when we last had a "real" date and like to make sure we get around to that as well. It's important to still want to go out and show off your spouse. It's "super" dating. I get to take my date home and keep him all night! ha!
6. Keep God first. I purposely left this one for last. Why? Because I want this one to be the one that sticks in your mind after this list. At the end of the day, Brian and I are human. We will make mistakes. We will let each other down. We will argue. We will get angry. We will cry. We will fight. We will hug. We will be our own best/worst enemies. But at the end of every single day, we are both a child of God.
He is a God who forgives us and shows us the way to mend our mistakes. He is a God that binds us. Brian and I stood before God on October 12, 2013 and vowed to conquer this world as one, with Him being our focus. That is and always will be our view.
And one last and final thought. Brian's father married us and in our ceremony he told us there were twelve words we will always need/use. These words will be spoken throughout our lives as man/wife. I wanted to share them with you today, in hopes you can also use it in your own marriages/relationships.
"I was wrong. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. I love you." - Ken White
Dear Brian,
Thank you for an amazing journey thus far as your wife. I still get butterflies knowing I get to go to sleep and wake up next to you every morning. I've prayed for years for these days we are living now. It's even better in reality than it was in all those dreams. God placed a special person in this life when you were created. I owe God and your parents' lots of love and devotion for raising such a good, Christian man and future father. It has been an incredible first six months. I am looking forward to all the years of our lives... Love, "Wifey"
Mississippi Mr. {Interview!}
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| Isn't he cute?! |
I've seen several of my favorite bloggers (like Modern Tulip, A Southern Style, Katie Elizabeth, and Life Could Be A Dream) getting their husbands involved in a fun little post. I asked (more like begged!) Brian to do this with me, so here we go!
ME: What is the name of my blog?
B: *thinking*.... Mississippi Mrs.
ME: What do I typically write about?
B: Family and wedding
ME: What's a popular fashion item for women right now?
B: *laughing* Leggings.
ME: What's the best place to shop for women?
B: Can it be more than one answer?
ME: Yes
B: Kohl's and Belk's.
ME: Yes
B: Kohl's and Belk's.
ME: What do you know about Pinterest?
B: It's great creative ideas that I know my wife wants me to do a lot of them.
ME: What's a Hunter wellie?
B: *weird look* Hunter of Wales...
ME: What is our favorite thing to do together?
B: Go to Lowe's
ME: What does a perfect evening look like to me?
B: Probably sitting at home, having family time, watching a movie.
ME: What's the Pantone color of the year for 2014?
B: PANETONE COLOR? Fuscia.
ME: It's actually Radiant Orchid.
B: Hmmm... *thumbs up*
ME:What do women keep in their purse?
B: Wallet and a planner
((He knows me SOOO well!))
((He knows me SOOO well!))
ME: What do I do when I'm home alone?
B: On the computer
B: On the computer
ME: What what do you do if you're home alone?
B: Play XBOX
ME: What's my favorite accessory?
B: Michael Kors bag. Or your ring.
ME: What's an acceptable amount to spend on a makeup item?
B: Are we talking about them naked make up things?
ME: Any item, in general.
B: $20
ME: Any item, in general.
B: $20
ME: What is your favorite trait about me, not physical?
B: You are caring and understanding.
ME: What's my favorite TV show?
B: The Walking Dead
ME: What is my dessert of choice?
B: *shaking his head* .....*thinking*..... I don't see you eat a lot of ice cream, so I'm saying cookies.
ME: Anything else you'd like to say?
B: I love my wife.
Isn't that precious!? :)
Isn't that precious!? :)
Valentine's Day 2014
Today there will be millions of dollars spent on flowers, balloons, chocolates, and fancy meals.
But not in the White House.
In our home, we believe every day to be like Valentine's Day. We share a love that is unbreakable because God mended it together.
Brian and I won't be sending each other mushy things, and we definitely won't be going to overcrowded restaurants tonight. It just isn't our style.
So, what does a newlywed couple do on Valentine's instead of all those mushy gushy things?
Well, we are going to eat (probably something non-healthy) while watching a movie.
If you just rolled your eyes, then that's okay. Brian and I are homebodies and we enjoy those "little moments" of being at home with each other, in pajamas.
To say our marriage is perfect, is a lie. Even though we are newlyweds, we still have our own issues. Finding a balance between our individual families and learning to make a family of our own takes adjusting.
Finances are being combined and you have to budget even harder than you did while living the single life. There are more bills, more due dates, and sometimes less money!
But that's married life. And I wouldn't trade it for anything in this world.
Brian has my entire heart. He is the wonderful Christian man that I prayed for so many nights. Sometimes I still look at him, sitting across the room from me, and can't fully grasp that he is finally mine. All mine. God sure is good!
So, whether you choose to spend Valentine's on the town or in your pajamas like us tonight, then just remember that you are lucky to have someone in your life. Make those sweet memories count before it's too late!
Dear Brian,
I love you baby. There are not enough words in the English language to tell you just how happy and blessed I am to be your wife. Thank you walking in at just the right time and stepping out on faith to get to know me. I know it wasn't the best timing, nor was it easy. I love you every single day more than I did the day before. It's amazing the things I have learned about you in just 4 short months of marriage. It makes me look so forward to the next years of our lives and seeing what all God can present before us and give us in this life.
Every day I pray for you and say a word of thanks to God for you, baby. You're my one in a million, my soul mate, my forever friend, and the love of my life.
Happy Valentine's!
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