Coffee Date Vol.2 {Link-Up}

I'm so tickled to be joining in with Rachel and Madison today as they host this Coffee Date link up.  These two ladies are seriously two of my favorite blogs to read, so when I heard about the coffee date I was completely on board.

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So, the catch is that we are (virtually!) having a coffee date and sharing what is on our hearts.  Having a good heart to heart conversation with a friend is one of the most fulfilling moments to me.  There is such a vulnerability that comes when two people are being completely themselves.  Blogging has brought me so many new friends that I wish I could sit down with today, but this is the next best thing!
 
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Lately, my heart has been hurting.  I've been putting on a smile and making the most of each day, however, when I get home and in bed at night my head has been swirling.  The simple fact is what sometimes in life you never truly know a person, no matter how long you've been around them.  Unfortunately, it usually takes some type of bad situation to bring out these qualities in people. 

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In the middle of this array of emotions, I've found a new inner peace. For as long as I can remember, I've been Type A personality and driven for organization and success in life.  There have been so many times people have made fun of some of my actions.  I've shrugged it off, but later felt bad that my tendencies were that noticeable.

Brian and I are both OCD about a lot of things in life, but not the same things. That makes for an interesting combination for a "to do" list around our house.  I feel like our opposites worries are completely how we survive.  Brian sees something that I can't, and vice versa.  We compliment each other instead of butting heads like some may think. 

Before we were married, I lived alone in my home (with Reagan and Roxie!) for five years.  I had "my" way of doing things such as laundry, loading the dishwasher, cleaning, other chores, etc.  I can look back now and tell you I was uptight.  Too uptight.  Marriage was a blessing for me. Brian does all those things I listed, just in his own way, as I do in mine.  Both jobs get done and things are clean and put away.  I knew within a month of us living together that I HAD to let go of some of my uptight/independent attitude or we were going to have a hard road ahead of us.

Brian even commented one day that he could tell I had slacked off.  That may not be the most romantic thing he has ever said to me, but I tell you right now it stuck out almost as much as him proposing. I knew God had answered my prayer. 
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I don't think I will ever fully let go of my Type A personality and being a fanatic about things being clean and put away.  BUT I do think I have turned over a new leaf and am learning to appreciate LIFE more than organization.  That makes my heart smile.  I just don't want there to be a day that my future child feels like their home is not a home that can be lived in/played in.  I want them to have fun and invite friends over.  I want our home to hold their happy childhood memories.

God already knows this issue on my heart.  He knows I've prayed about this and asked for His help.  And you know what?  He listened to my prayers. 

Now, I'm off to clean the house... KIDDING! :) The laundry can wait another day!  I am going to enjoy my husband and the weekend!

Happy Friday, friends!

10 comments:

  1. Love this sweet Kayla! Marriage is such a sanctifying experience isn't it? It is so sweet, but just like gold being refined and put through fire and beaten to make something beautiful so is marriage...hard, and painful but it makes us more like Jesus! So it is worth it! Thanks for linking up today, and for being open with what is going on in your heart! much love!!

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  2. Thanks for sharing Kayla! I'm actually exactly the opposite. And I wish I was more OCD like you! Hope you have a fun weekend with your hubs!

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  3. i love how marriage points out our sin, but in such a loving way that we can be grateful for it! :) thanks for sharing!

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  4. Isn't it wonderful how God knew the type of person you needed to be with? I know how hard it can be to let go of the way you've always done things but so proud of you for trusting in The Lord!

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  5. Girl I am the same way! I really realized just how OCD and/or a control freak I am when I got married! Its really hard to just let things go sometimes. I have to teach myself to just relax. If there is a pile of laundry on the floor it will get done eventually! No need to add extra unnecessary stress to my life. :)

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  6. I can definitely relate to marriage being a huge adjustment! I had only lived at home with my parents and in dorms with girl roommates before we got married. My husband is way more type A than I am, but he doesn't see dirt, lol, he only sees when things are out of place! So that's been an adjustment for us :) Thank you so much for linking up with us and being open and honest!

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